May Mutidjo

Our dear sister, May Mutidjo, went home to the Lord on Oct 21, 2016. Her husband, Francis, wrote a wonderful tribute to her. You can read the whole tribute plus see photos at Dignity Memorial’s web site.

I met my wife Mariani ,Tjien Mey, or simply May, some 46 years ago when both of us worked in 2 different private banks in Jakarta Indonesia. She was a non-practicing Buddhist and I was a non-practicing Catholic.; but out of love for each other she was willing to convert to Catholicism and since then I became more frequent in my church attendance. Finally we were married in a Catholic church, 42 years ago.

Three years after our marriage and having the first baby, I got a job in Kingston, Jamaica. Moving to Jamaica was not easy. We had to leave our parents, family members, and friends, facing all kinds of challenger, such as cultural, language, and life style. However, by the grace of God and the supports from families and friends, especially members of the POP community, we managed to rise up above the obstacles. We spent more than 30 years in Jamaica, and were blessed with 3 additional children.

We moved Tampa almost a decade ago, transferred to the POP Tampa. We enjoyed our brand new house and enjoyed our life together in the empty nest. Together we did many activities, including travel, and visiting children and grand children; exercised at the gym- joining different group classes.

My dear wife was not only a wonderful wife and mother but she was a meticulous housekeeper and homemaker. She cooked every day and kept the house in order. She was faithful in her church attendance. She knew by heart the different times of mass schedules on Sat and Sunday. We moved to this parish 3 years ago, and together we volunteered at the SVDP. She was happy to do whatever task allotted her. She also lived growing and caring for flowers, especially orchids. Her back yard is like a mini tropical botanical garden. She was a self-disciplined woman. She ate well balanced diet; exercised 1 hour every single day.

She was a very resourceful woman too ; good in budgeting and savings. She packed children’ lunch every day and she told the children that we were doing it in order to save money for their college education.

I am in deep sorrow now for my beloved wife but the burden has been lessened by the many kindness, supports and prayers shown to me and my family. My children and I tried to give her the best funeral she deserved. My house is covered with cards and letters extending love and sympathy. My FaceBook page and WhatsApp were flooded with similar messages from all over the world: Australia, Canada, France, Indonesia, Jamaica, and Malaysia.

By the generosity of friends, and family members, daily masses in 6 different churches are being offered for the repose of May’s soul.

I want you all to know how grateful I am for all you have said or done. The tribute you paid myself and my family touched us deeply. I fear I cannot thank all of you personally but be assured your kindness will never be forgotten.

She is now with the Lord, in His heavenly Kingdom, surrounded by the angels, saints, the martyrs, and the chosen ones.
In my grief, one of the comforting words I found was from Job 1:21 “Naked I came forth from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I go back there. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD!”